Parenting with Love Logical Consequences and Play
Parenting with love logical consequences and play engenders
independent, responsible and happy children with a zest for
learning. Parenting with the unique elements of love,
logical consequences and play in mind has a special
synergistic affect. In addition to this affect, how else
does parenting with love, logical consequences and play create
children with these important traits? An explanation
follows.
The love, in parenting with love logical consequences and
play, is unconditional love.
Some of the characteristics of unconditional love are the
following:
- The ability to delight in the unique character of our
child and accept both her negative and positive traits.
- Unconditional love for our child is love in action. It
is the act of demonstrating we care through genuine respect
and interest in our child that is reflected in our elevated
expression, speech, feelings and other actions.
- One result of unconditional love is our child feels
known, valued and important.
- Another result is our child feels comfortable in our
presence to be herself.
- Through unconditional love, our child learns to love and
value himself.
- Verbal I love yous are okay, if they are genuine, but
they cannot replace love in demonstrated action as described
in number one above.
- Unconditional love is not letting the child do what ever
he wants to do. That is neglect.
- Unconditional love helps engender self-confidence,
independence, and happiness.
- Unconditional love can be a tall order for parents. Just
realizing what it is, and its importance to our children can
help us all, slowly, improve in the way we see and treat
them.
Unconditional loves role in parenting with love logical
consequences and play is undeniable.
Logical consequences are an important part of parenting with
love logical consequences and play. It is through parenting
with logical consequences that children learn responsibility.
The following is a summary of how to parent with logical
consequences:
- Make sure your child clearly understands how you expect
him to behave.
- Discuss the consequences of misbehavior and get his
input on what those consequences might be.
- Remember children are more likely to comply with
consequences they helped create.
- Have your child explain to you and role play what
behaviors you expect of him.
- Consequences for misbehavior should not emphasize
punishment but learning to do the right thing by thinking
about the problem and discussing it.
- Have him explain the consequences so you can be sure he
understands them clearly.
- Don't forget to praise and point out positive behavior
and the consequences of good behavior!
- Catch your child behaving positively and praise him.
Try to see there are three praise statements to every
negative statement.
- Be sure the child understands that the consequences, both
negative and positive, are for his own betterment.
- Be sure all behavioral expectations and consequences are
age appropriate and child appropriate. Remember kids are
different. Tailor consequences to suit your children.
Parenting with logical consequences helps children become
more responsible and independent.
Logical consequences is an important synergistic element in
parenting with love logical consequences and play.
Now one can begin to appreciate how parenting with love logical
consequences and play might foster a healthy child.
Finally, we come to play, the last, but perhaps the most
important element in parenting with love logical consequences
and play. Why is play so important to parenting with love,
logical consequences and play?
Because play is what makes children children.
Play and
childhood are inseparable. A child who doesn't play is no
child at all. Regarding parenting with love logical
consequences and play, it is the parents role to preserve and
promote child play since play appears to be decreasing among
our kids.
Some important points, regarding play are:
- The opposite of depression is play.
- It aids learning more to feel, touch and manipulate an
object, like squeezing a rubber ball or putting marbles in a
can, than to see it through a computer screen.
- TV, video and computer games destroy play.
- The intense physical activity, which characterizes
childhood, builds muscle, increases dexterity, improves
mood, and uses up the excess energy of childhood, helping
children relax.
- The intense mental activity and learning of childhood is
generated by the fun of play. This form of learning through
play is highly varied and unstructured, unlike formal, education.
- Play often gets children outside where they can enjoy
nature and receive sunlight that influences hormones,
vitamins and mood positively.
- Play allows children to act out and vent their feelings
which improves their mood and gives parents the opportunity
to determine how they are feeling. Furthermore, by learning
through play and acting out their feelings, children learn
to cope with feelings.
- If human brains are created to learn by associating
learning with fun, play in other words, should not good
parenting strive to make learning fun too?
Some recommendations for child play development that beat
depression and stimulate learning are:
- Child proof your house so your child can be free to play.
- Create low lying play areas with household objects in
each area of the house since young children follow parents.
The kitchen area could have bowls, pots, pans, wooden
spoons, etc. Don't forget the sandbox.
- Find or make old fashioned toys that allow for
imagination. For example, dolls and other figures without
faces, stand-up dolls made of felt or wool, etc.
- Take your child outdoors and collect objects from nature
for play, like branches, pieces of bark (among other things,
these can be used as blocks), etc.
- Encourage your child to play in nature by buying
raincoats and other gear. There is nothing more fun than
kids playing in the rain.
- Turn off the TV for it interferes with the imagination
and family cohesiveness. Try reading stories, star gazing,
or going for short walks after dinner. Use your
imagination to discover things to do and they will use
theirs.
- Invite other children over to play.
- Look for schools that don't push structured academic
learning. Interest in learning to read increases at around
five for children who have not been taught to read earlier.
- Value play over early academic programs that force kids
out of the natural world of play before they are ready.
Besides providing the zest for learning, play promotes health
and happiness. This is why it is vital to parenting with
love logical consequences and play.
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Old-Fashioned Play Builds Serious Skills.
