Parenting with Love Logical Consequences and Play

Parenting with love logical consequences and play engenders
independent, responsible and happy children with a zest for
learning. Parenting with the unique elements of love,
logical consequences and play in mind has a special
synergistic affect. In addition to this affect, how else
does parenting with love, logical consequences and play create
children with these important traits? An explanation
follows.

The love, in parenting with love logical consequences and
play, is unconditional love.

Some of the characteristics of unconditional love are the
following:


  1. The ability to delight in the unique character of our
    child and accept both her negative and positive traits.

  2. Unconditional love for our child is love in action. It
    is the act of demonstrating we care through genuine respect
    and interest in our child that is reflected in our elevated
    expression, speech, feelings and other actions.

  3. One result of unconditional love is our child feels
    known, valued and important.

  4. Another result is our child feels comfortable in our
    presence to be herself.

  5. Through unconditional love, our child learns to love and
    value himself.

  6. Verbal I love yous are okay, if they are genuine, but
    they cannot replace love in demonstrated action as described
    in number one above.

  7. Unconditional love is not letting the child do what ever
    he wants to do. That is neglect.

  8. Unconditional love helps engender self-confidence,
    independence, and happiness.

  9. Unconditional love can be a tall order for parents. Just
    realizing what it is, and its importance to our children can
    help us all, slowly, improve in the way we see and treat
    them.


Unconditional loves role in parenting with love logical
consequences and play is undeniable.

Logical consequences are an important part of parenting with
love logical consequences and play. It is through parenting
with logical consequences that children learn responsibility.
The following is a summary of how to parent with logical
consequences:


  1. Make sure your child clearly understands how you expect
    him to behave.

  2. Discuss the consequences of misbehavior and get his
    input on what those consequences might be.

  3. Remember children are more likely to comply with
    consequences they helped create.

  4. Have your child explain to you and role play what
    behaviors you expect of him.

  5. Consequences for misbehavior should not emphasize
    punishment but learning to do the right thing by thinking
    about the problem and discussing it.

  6. Have him explain the consequences so you can be sure he
    understands them clearly.

  7. Don't forget to praise and point out positive behavior
    and the consequences of good behavior!

  8. Catch your child behaving positively and praise him.
    Try to see there are three praise statements to every
    negative statement.

  9. Be sure the child understands that the consequences, both
    negative and positive, are for his own betterment.

  10. Be sure all behavioral expectations and consequences are
    age appropriate and child appropriate. Remember kids are
    different. Tailor consequences to suit your children.


Parenting with logical consequences helps children become
more responsible and independent.

Logical consequences is an important synergistic element in
parenting with love logical consequences and play.

Now one can begin to appreciate how parenting with love logical
consequences and play might foster a healthy child.

Finally, we come to play, the last, but perhaps the most
important element in parenting with love logical consequences
and play. Why is play so important to parenting with love,
logical consequences and play?

Because play is what makes children children. Play and
childhood are inseparable. A child who doesn't play is no
child at all. Regarding parenting with love logical
consequences and play, it is the parents role to preserve and
promote child play since play appears to be decreasing among
our kids.

Some important points, regarding play are:


  • The opposite of depression is play.

  • It aids learning more to feel, touch and manipulate an
    object, like squeezing a rubber ball or putting marbles in a
    can, than to see it through a computer screen.

  • TV, video and computer games destroy play.

  • The intense physical activity, which characterizes
    childhood, builds muscle, increases dexterity, improves
    mood, and uses up the excess energy of childhood, helping
    children relax.

  • The intense mental activity and learning of childhood is
    generated by the fun of play. This form of learning through
    play is highly varied and unstructured, unlike formal, education.

  • Play often gets children outside where they can enjoy
    nature and receive sunlight that influences hormones,
    vitamins and mood positively.

  • Play allows children to act out and vent their feelings
    which improves their mood and gives parents the opportunity
    to determine how they are feeling. Furthermore, by learning
    through play and acting out their feelings, children learn
    to cope with feelings.

  • If human brains are created to learn by associating
    learning with fun, play in other words, should not good
    parenting strive to make learning fun too?


    Some recommendations for child play development that beat
    depression and stimulate learning are:


    1. Child proof your house so your child can be free to play.

    2. Create low lying play areas with household objects in
      each area of the house since young children follow parents.
      The kitchen area could have bowls, pots, pans, wooden
      spoons, etc. Don't forget the sandbox.

    3. Find or make old fashioned toys that allow for
      imagination. For example, dolls and other figures without
      faces, stand-up dolls made of felt or wool, etc.

    4. Take your child outdoors and collect objects from nature
      for play, like branches, pieces of bark (among other things,
      these can be used as blocks), etc.

    5. Encourage your child to play in nature by buying
      raincoats and other gear. There is nothing more fun than
      kids playing in the rain.

    6. Turn off the TV for it interferes with the imagination
      and family cohesiveness. Try reading stories, star gazing,
      or going for short walks after dinner. Use your
      imagination to discover things to do and they will use
      theirs.

    7. Invite other children over to play.

    8. Look for schools that don't push structured academic
      learning. Interest in learning to read increases at around
      five for children who have not been taught to read earlier.

    9. Value play over early academic programs that force kids
      out of the natural world of play before they are ready.


    Besides providing the zest for learning, play promotes health
    and happiness. This is why it is vital to parenting with
    love logical consequences and play.

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    Old-Fashioned Play Builds Serious Skills.