Counselor Experience
Introducing Dr. Glenn Marks, O.D., counselor:
Glenn Marks graduated from the University, California Berkeley Optometry School with honors earning a Doctor of Optometry degree.
Additionally he has a BA, MA and PhDabd in Psychology. He has taught optometry at Melbourne University in Australia and has over 10 years of experience in child and family counseling.
Dr. Marks was a school counselor for both elementary and secondary students providing individual, group and family therapy.
Testimonials include the following:
From an elementary school teacher:
While at this school, “Glenn worked tirelessly with many children that were referred to him from all class levels including my own. He was invaluable in assisting the teachers with those students who were disruptive in class as well as those needing special attention. At times the home life of these children was in chaos and Glenn offered a kind heart and gentle approach, calming the children and giving them encouragement. If the child was removed from the classroom because of poor behavior they would return from Glenn’s counselor session quieted and more responsive.
Glenn also worked with the parents of these children offering a complete and whole family approach to helping the child. He screened the children for emotional and social problems and, where appropriate, referred them to outside therapists.“
From a school principal:
“One of Glenn’s strengths is his ability to work with the children’s families. There have been many occasions when Glenn has counseled the parents of his students. The student’s behavior and academic progress at school improved dramatically once the family dynamics at home changed. Glenn has been extremely successful getting fathers positively involved in their children’s life.”
From the Clinical Psychologist Specialist from his school district, concerning Dr. Marks' counseling expertise:
“He is an astute and compassionate individual who has good rapport with his students, school personnel and families. He is culturally sensitive to my client and her mother’s life situation. My client, who attends his groups, has stated that they are very useful in helping her express her emotions and learn social skills.”
From the District Psychologist of the school district:
“Amongst the many responsibilities he has accepted and performed with unusual sensitivity and his professionalism has been ongoing, with individual counseling to students ranging in age from 5 years to 13 years, of many ethnicities and varied backgrounds. His understanding of personality, emotional and cognitive development of this age group is thorough and he has demonstrated patient, insightful, and consistent student support.”
Dr. Marks currently resides with his family on the West Coast of the USA.
April 10, 2003
From: John Doe, NCSP
District Psychologist
Rincon Valley Union School District
Re: Letter of Professional Recommendation for Glenn Marks
To Whom It May Concern:
For the 2001 through 2003 school years, Mr. Glenn Marks has
been an invaluable member of the Madrone Elementary School
Support Staff. He has demonstrated remarkable skill and
dedication in his position as our School Counselor.
Amongst the many responsibilities he has accepted and
performed with unusual sensitivity and professionalism has
been ongoing, individual counseling to students ranging in
age from 5 years to 13 years, of many ethnicities and
varied backgrounds. His understanding of personality,
emotional and cognitive development of this age group is
thorough and he has demonstrated patient, insightful, and
consistent student support.
I have worked in coordination with Mr. Marks on numerous
cases. We jointly provided assistance and guidance to
individual students. Additionally, Mr. Marks was asked to
work with the School IEP Team on several of our most
challenging Special Education cases because of his expertise
regarding emotional pathology and family dynamics. He
provided strong and accurate insight; he has served with
remarkable skill as a liaison between school staff and
student home environments.
Many a time Mr. Marks has taken extrordinary measures to
make himself available to be of assistance including making
home visitations, counseling parents and assisting them in
seeking private assistance, even making the extra efforts to
contact individuals and institutions out of state when
information was needed.
"Unconditionally, without reservation, I recommend Mr.
Marks for any professional position that calls for terrific
counseling abilities, personable and accommodating
interpersonal relationships, and dedication to his
clientele."
Respectfully submitted,
John Doe, NCSP
District Psychologist, Licensed Educational Psychologist
My response to a child care worker that had given up on a
particular client he'd been working with after said client
flipped him off:
I've never seen a kid that couldn't be helped and I've
worked with autistic, severely emotionally disturbed and
relatively normal adjustment problems. I've been to the
barrio, the ghetto, and in all instances I found the kids
could be helped. The younger the age, the easier they were
to help. There's a counselor or someone out there for
every kid, no matter how incorrigible or tough he or she is.
The resourceful parent learns that kids are different and
different approaches work with different kids. Society
often looks for simple black and white answers that work
with 50%+ of children.
In my experience, children always behave the way they do
for good reason. Sometimes we can't figure out that reason
or we can't understand that reason so we often simply blame
the kid. That's the easy way.
This doesn't mean to say that the kid shouldn't be held
accountable for his behavior even if that behavior has been
caused be severe early abuse.
In the case of the kid that is forced to comply and behaves
well because of fear, sure he will flip you off once he's
free. Even a normal person would do that.
But take that same kid and teach him to comply without
intimidation and there will be no flipping anyone off when
he leaves.
Positive parenting is a lot tougher to maintain then
punishment type parenting because you have to think and use
your head and remain in control of yourself while under
fire, which is challenging when the kid is acting out.
However, this is what separates adults from children. When
you control yourself under fire, the kid learns to do the
same and eventually respects you for it.
A simple parenting plan might be the following:
- Develop a proper parenting plan and communicate this
plan to your children.
- Formulate a list of child behavior expectations and
consequences.
- Have your child participate in the process as is
appropriate for her age.
- Communicate and role play these expectations to your
child.
- Make sure your child understands these expectations
by having him explain them and perform them.
- When a child performs an expectation incorrectly or
misbehaves, instead of criticizing him, role play it the
correct way. Then as he performs it, praise him for each
part he does correctly. This is an example of successful
parenting skills.
- Learn to praise the many things your child does
correctly. For every negative comment, be sure you find
three or more positive things to say to your child.
- Never lose self-control. Plan for power struggles by
not taking yourself too seriously, redirecting behavior
before it gets out of control, switching places with your
spouse, taking a time out, getting upset before you are
really upset, seeing the humor in the situation.
- Consistency in adhering to the expectations and
consequences you've communicated to your child is the key
to transforming her negative behavior into positive
behavior.
- Again praise your child for what he already performs well, when he improves at something and when he genuinely tries.
- Always give a reason for the praise or describe the
praiseworthy behavior as follows: "I like the way you
picked up every toy in your bedroom, even the ones under your bed, and put them all neatly in the toy box."
When you learn to catch the toughs doing good things it
blows their mind when you point that out. Now they won't
thank you for it and in fact they may hate you for it at
first. But kids are kids and eventually they come around if
you are tough enough not to lose your cool.
Those parents who simply lash out at their children are
teaching them impulsive lack of control, exactly the
opposite of what we want to teach our kids. These people
should not be raising children for they are adults who lack
the self-control and foresight to control their own
behavior, much less their children's.

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